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...really still happening!

Okay, Okay... so it's been 3 weeks(ish) since my post.  You saw the kitchen and the front room/dining room.  YES!  They're still looking like the pictures!  So, I have to share a two things that I really feel need to be shared in this process... 
 
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I have found in this process that I didn't realize how CRAZY my house drove me; sure because of the chaos - but underneath that feeling it was because I knew this wasn't normal and it could be better and I knew there were ways to take care of it, I just couldn't get that mental block to life and get moving forward with it.  Welp, mental block gone, moving forward now! 
 
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There is something my mom has told me for years and years now, something that I've taken to heart and really worked to do.  "Get your own house in order first, and others will want to be a part of it."  Now, this comment came up usually in conversations about relationships and dating and all that; and it wasn't a comment about getting my home in LITERAL order, all tidy and neat and organized.  This is get my own life together, figure out ME and my family... a person who is emotionally and mentally healthy, attracts and is attracted to someone who is in the same place.  So, I've spent the last couple of years doing that - putting my focus on my family - the kids and I.  And I can honestly say, I've found a place where I am happy on my own.  3-4 years ago, I don't know if I could have honestly made that statement.  Well, it's been a couple few years since I've dated, and there was a purpose for that - to work on my family - which has been going very well!  We absotlutely have our days and our pitfalls, but things have really gotten better for us.  Earlier this year, I decided it was time to work on me too!  And then I started on this project... started doing the literal side of getting my house in order; which has only made things even better (except for perhaps a few mornings where kids didn't want to get up.... hard transition in the winter when it's so dark out still in the morning). 
 
So, I've always been one to take things to a semi-literal level and I suppose that's what needed to be done.  The last 7 months I have been working my butt off (LITTERALLY!! :-) down 4 sizes!) to work on ME.  My family is doing well, and so now it's my turn and there were still things I was struggling with within myself.  I've struggled with my self concept.  I like who I am, the person I am; I'm happy with the choices I make and the people I have in my life... but I still felt unhappy and miserable and defeated by what I saw on the outside.  Yes - I know... beauty is more than skin deep, I get that.  But guess what?!  I wanted to FEEL BETTER, and LIKE what I saw... I wanted what I saw in a mirror to match what I felt like on the inside!  So that adventure began.. and it's been FANTASTIC!  I've been getting in shape and dropping sizes... and feeling SO MUCH BETTER not only phsycially, but emotionally and mentally.  I believe that was a huge help in me being able to take on my project to transition to a cleanie!  Self confidence is a wonderful motivator :) 
 
Now... why am I sharing all this anyway?!  Well my mom was R-I-G-H-T (imagine that?!  a mom who knows what's she's talking about?!?!  Love you MOM!!)  My HOME is in order... and getting stronger each day.  I am in order, that choatic-out-of-control feeling that rose inside me every time I pulled into my driveway is gone.  I don't walk into my house anymore and get the instant reminder that I am a failure because I can't even keep my house picked up.... only to go upstairs and change after work and get a second kicker reminder of the things I can't do and that I am a failure because I can't even get a good diet and exercise to work right....  NO MORE FAILURES IN THIS HOUSE!!!!  We now have opportunities, not failures!  Opportunites to try again, learn something new, make a mistake, have success!!  And now that things are in order... and I'm happy and content with what I have, enough so I've not even been looking to date or anything like that... but I am :-)  and that part is fantastic too!  (hmmmm wonder what other places I could eek that ocmment in?!  I just want to tell everyone I see 'hey guess what?!  I'M SEEING SOMEONE FANTASTIC!! Haha!  I'm just slightly thrilled by it all.... :-D ).
 
Now that I've gotten to share that :)  Lets get to the point of this blog!  MY BEDROOM IS CLEAN AND ORGANIZED!!  AND it's been that way since I started this project back in early September!  WOO HOO!!!  Want to know the best part of it all?!  It takes almost NO TIME at all to keep it that way!  Once everything got a spot and put away in a manner that made sense, it's been going great! 
 
So again, those of you who know me... might want to sit down... not sure... you may be prepared alreayd if you saw the last blog's pictures and didn't pass out HAHA!  So, first things first - my bed FINALLY gets made every morning!  I LOVE my bedding, but I just never had the time to find all the pillows and get everything on there each morning because I was spending my time digging through my closet and drawers looking for items to piece together for an outfit....
 
 


 
Now, the bed is made and the floor (yes look!!! a floor!!) is neat and clean and wonderful (and it's a new bed WOO HOO!!).  So, the closet I was having to dig through to find something that matched at least pretty well so I could wear it to work?  Here's a novel idea... organize your clothes in color coordinates?!  Now I know where ALLL my red shirts are, blue shirts, black slacks, jeans, etc. 
 
 And shoes?!  Oh don't even get me started!  What a pain, have to dig around and find the other mate to the one you have on already.  The book suggested that I keep my shoeboxes and label what shoes are in which box.  I thought, well that's a great idea.... except I'd NEVER do it LOL!!  So I needed something quick access, minimal space taker and neat/organized.... say hello to my stacked crate shoe rack!
 

 
SOOO.... things are looking better!  And the last couple of Saturday mornings, which are cleaning morning... those used to take 3-5 hours around here with a lot of arguments and "I don't want to!!"  The last few weeks?  It takes about 30-45 minutes and the rest of the day is ours!    I am so thankful I've made this change!!!!  Is anyone out there giving this a shot?!
 



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